Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Porn and Potiphar's Wife

Remember me? The girl who used to blog all the time? Well, that girl is getting her tail kicked by the JOB she has of raising 7 children. There is no discretionary time any more. 
But, I am so burdened by what I am seeing in our generation that I HAVE to stop and write.
Porn, adultery, divorce, addiction, etc... is taking marriages/people down like flies. Porn is an epidemic. Worse than the flu. It is making so many sick. 
We are living in a very frightening time. Especially if God has entrusted you with SIX sons!
Surely homeschooling can stop the evil, right? Putting restrictions on all of our electronics will keep us safe, right? WRONG.
That's outward ammo.
This is a HEART issue. 

"O my son, give me your HEART.
May your eyes take delight in following my ways.
A prostitute is a dangerous trap;
a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well.
She hides and waits like a robber,
eager to make more men unfaithful."
Prov 23:26-28

We can no longer think we can shield our kids from every evil. I wish we could. I wish we could go back in time where marriage was honored, God's Word prevailed, and pornography was not readily accessible in the hand of every child.
But, God, placed us here... NOW... on purpose.
NOT so that our kids will get swept away by the tsunami of evil.

We have to prepare them and pray for them.
Our sons were created for battle. Well, that's a good thing because they have been born into a raging war. Homeschool kids are moving to the top of the list of addicts. That is scary to me. Kids who sit in their rooms all day... detached from reality. No deep relationship with God or their parents. All in the name of protection. I think the enemy is preying on boredom. Just like he did with David.
Why wasn't David fighting battles like he should of been? Instead, he was having a "midday rest"???
 "In the spring of the year, when kings normally go out to war, David sent Joab and the Israelite army to fight the Ammonites. They destroyed the Ammonite army and laid siege to the city of Rabbah. However, David stayed behind in Jerusalem.
 Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath."

Our sons need to be engaged in battle and BUSY. Not taking mid-day rests.

It boils down to the heart and wisdom. What the Bible would call A HEART OF WISDOM.

As I watch this epidemic hitting homes of all kinds, I wonder if there is a vaccination. Can I give my sons enough of it to where they will be immune when exposed to the real deal?
I believe I can.
Tim and I have relied on the Spirit to guide us in what to say to them and when. We didn't want to use a book or a formula. We want God to show us when they are ready instead of when the world tells you to talk to them. 
Reading straight through the Bible has been a wonderful catalyst for conversation.

A couple of things I have felt very strongly God wants them to know:

1. All sex isn't the same. There are different words used in the Old Testament in regards to sex. 

God's WAY--- "Yada"- can be translated--- 
to be deeply known, respected, satisfied, cared for, know well, chosen, clearly understand, investigate, skillful, experience, found, 
learn, make myself known, notice

The enemy's way--"Anah"- 
to afflict, oppress, humble, be afflicted, be bowed down, 
depressed, humiliated, weakened

(There is another word used in regards to sexual relations that means "to exchange bodily fluids". GROSS)

Sex God's way is a lifelong pass back to the garden of Eden. If you fight for your purity, then that angel (with the flaming sword) will get out of the way and let you back into Eden.  :) 
If you do it the enemy's way, you will find yourself stuck in an earthly HELL. 

God may extend His mercy and rescue but WHY GO THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE? And, I am seeing young boys going past the point of no return. Their brains have been DAMAGED.

From a young age, I have taught my boys that their eyes are the lamps of their whole bodies.
If their eyes are filled with light, so is their entire body.
If their eyes are filled with darkness, SO IS THEIR ENTIRE BODY.

“Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light.  But when your eye is bad, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!"
Matthew 6

I think every parent needs to watch this video to see the TRUTH of this passage. 
The darkness of porn is DEEP. 

"The word pornography is composed of two Greek words. The first is porne, meaning “harlot,” which is akin to the word pernanai, meaning “to sell.” The second word is graphein, meaning “to write.” In other words, pornography is literally “the writing of harlots.”

There is a God-given curiosity in boys. 
They have to LEARN to control their bodies in a way that is holy and honorable.
It isn't natural. 
If they have to learn how to control their bodies, who is going to teach them?
We have to.
They have to know the difference between holy and unholy.

I told my boys that their wives will answer all of their questions one day.
It IS meant to be mysteriously sacred.
But they have to wait. And fight for her until then.

Obviously, Tim's example and leadership in this area is HUGE. Bigger than mine. We have to pray for our husbands. The enemy is taking down leaders. 
Just read about aNOTHER mega-Church pastor's wife divorcing him for infidelity.
If there is a crack in the wall, the devil will go in for the kill. 
Tim and I know the enemy wants to destroy us. The quickest way would be to destroy Tim. 
Not only are our men and sons dealing with Porn. They are also dealing with "Potiphar's wife".  Women also lust with their eyes. It's not just a guy thing.

"Joseph was a very handsome and well-built young man,  and Potiphar’s wife soon began to look at him lustfully. “Come and sleep with me,” she demanded.
 But Joseph refused. “Look,” he told her, “my master trusts me with everything in his entire household.  No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.”
 She kept putting pressure on Joseph day after day, but he refused to sleep with her, and he kept out of her way as much as possible.  
One day, however, no one else was around when he went in to do his work.  She came and grabbed him by his cloak, demanding, “Come on, sleep with me!” Joseph tore himself away, but he left his cloak in her hand as he ran from the house.
 When she saw that she was holding his cloak and he had fled,  she called out to her servants. Soon all the men came running. “Look!” she said. “My husband has brought this Hebrew slave here to make fools of us! He came into my room to rape me, but I screamed.  When he heard me scream, he ran outside and got away, but he left his cloak behind with me.”
She kept the cloak with her until her husband came home.  Then she told him her story. “That Hebrew slave you’ve brought into our house tried to come in and fool around with me,” she said.  “But when I screamed, he ran outside, leaving his cloak with me!”
Gen 39

Oh my goodness this makes me angry. 
May we women NEVER have a heart like this.
It started as lust in the way she began to look at him.
She could have stopped it there. At that point it was still in the spiritual realm. It had not yet manifested into the physical realm.
Are you doing that? Are you looking at another man lustfully? CONFESS IT.

This makes me sad for Joseph because he has to WORK with her. Work environments can be so dangerous. 
This verse in Proverbs makes me SO MAD:
"a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well.
She hides and waits like a robber,
eager to make more men unfaithful."
Prov 23


He tries to avoid her as much as possible. She won't let up. 
She hides and waits like a robber until an opportune time.
He had already lost one coat to the deceit of his brothers. Now, he loses another one to a whore.
BUT, somehow he clung tight to his character. 
Character can cost you. It can even cost you your reputation. But it doesn't matter. You do whatever it takes to stay pure before God. 

Potiphar's wife was obviously MARRIED. 
She thought the grass was greener.
Maybe if she had been watering HER OWN GRASS, it wouldn't have been.
Girls, water YOUR MARRIAGES instead of fantasizing about someone else's husband. If your marriage isn't all you had dreamed it would be, talk to a trusted person. Get help before you start lusting after something that isn't yours.
Take every thought captive and bring it into the light.

I am thankful for all of these years I have been able to protect my sons by having them home. But, soon, they are going to be somewhere someday WITHOUT THEIR MOMMA. 
Potiphar's wife may show up at their work or on their ipad screen.
Oh, may their "inner man" be strong enough to run!

"that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man
Eph 3:16

I am sure Joseph thought no one was watching. He had no idea that his actions that day would be "seen" through Scripture for the rest of human history. We have no idea the impact our godly decisions will make. 
Our sins truly do find us out.
The enemy loves nothing more than to make you fall and then plaster your sin on a billboard to humiliate you.
Truth wins. 
We all know the real story between Joseph and Potiphar's wife.
Maybe no one did at the time but God has a way of exposing truth in time.

Potiphar's wife was fueled by lust. If lust can't have what it wants, it will try to destroy it. She tried to destroy him after he rejected her.

Our husbands and our sons hearts must fear God.
They must FEAR God and broken fellowship with Him more than they want to gratify the cravings of the sinful flesh.
1 John tells us that our greatest battles will be against our flesh, the devil, and the world. 

We have to pray for our husbands and our sons.
Pray that they would have strength for the battle.
Be careful of cracks. The enemy only needs an inch.
Trust CHRIST in your husband.
Your husband is human. 
The good news is that if he is walking yielded to Christ, he is SUPERhuman.
I have so much more I want to share about talking to your sons about sex but I have to go fix lunch.
Just remember, this is a HEART issue.
Get to their hearts with the Word.



Monday, October 31, 2016

Light vs Darkness

Teaching I shared today---



I am not a Halloween fan. My kids are because of the candy and costumes!
I AM a fan of lost people though.
 There are great opportunities to reach people in your neighborhood with the gospel during Halloween.
"Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; 
make the most of every opportunity."
Col 4:5
The book “RedeemingHalloween” gave me GREAT creative ideas to incorporate when it comes to Halloween.
One year, we had a “Fear Not”party in our back yard and turned our backyard into a carnival with booths, facepainting, and balloons. I had banners with Scriptures like “Fear Not, I am with You”.
We invited the neighborhood and paid tons of money for prizes with Bible verses and scripture cards, etc..
It was tons of fun and A LOT OF WORK! 




Another idea is to put your Christmas lights up for Halloween and turn them on so that your house is obviously LIGHT in darkness, then you are one step ahead for Christmas. :)
You can hand out cool gospel tracts.
My kids love doing that. Especially the young ones.


But as I prayed about what to talk about the Lord led me in a different direction.
Because HE knows that it is much more necessary for us to learn to navigate darkness everyday, 
not just on Halloween.
This is kind of funny:I drive past the haunted house at Ruby Falls a few times a week on my way up to Lookout Mountain. I seriously look at it like, PFFFFF… chainsaw man? Scary haunted house guys???… talk to the hand. I am seriously NOT afraid of them. After all I have been through in the last 2 ½ years, I honestly think I could walk through any haunted house without flinching. I would probably scare them more than they scare me!
I would definitely tell the scary guys they need to be rescued from the dominion of darkness and give them a gospel tract.
You see we don’t battle flesh and blood.
We battle unseen forces of evil.


 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Eph 6:12
As Christians, we aren't fighting chainsaw guys… we are fighting THE RULERS OF DARKNESS. Yikes.
I don’t know about you but I am scared of the dark.
And the RULERS of it.
Thank goodness the rulers of darkness were disarmed when Jesus rose from the dead.

"In this way, he disarmed the spiritual rulers and authorities. 
He shamed them publicly by his victory over them on the cross."
Col 2:15

I love John 8:12-
Jesus says…
“I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”

That’s a promise we can hang on to!
We may pass through some spiritually dark places but we won’t LIVE
 in them. He will ALWAYS lead us out with His light.

He has chosen His Word to be our greatest source of light here!

"We also have the prophetic message as something completely reliable, and you will do well to pay attention to it, as to a light shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts."
2 Peter 1:19

God's Word is completely reliable and we will do well to PAY ATTENTION to it. In the Greek, that means- 
to apply one's self to, attach one's self to, hold or cleave to a person or a thing
to be given or addicted to
to devote thought and effort to

Until the day dawns and the morning star rises... meaning the return of JESUS!
It's so close, friends.

Unless God intervenes, we are getting to enter into the greatest time of darkness we have ever experienced as a nation and as a Church.
The sin in our country is piled high.
Abortion
Euthenasia 
(packaged in pretty words like comfort care/dying with dignity)
Sexual Sin
Betrayal
Removing God from Schools and Government
Drugs 

Things that are CLEARLY sin against a holy God being celebrated. :(
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God has put it on my heart to warn you and PREPARE you for what is coming.
I also want to give you some EXCITING truth to stand on.



You probably know a story in the Old Testament about PLAGUES. (By the way, it’s ok if you don’t!) God was angry that his people were being held hostage by a wicked ruler who would not allow them to serve and worship Him.
Because of Pharoah’s wickedness, God sent 10 plagues to get him to let God’s people go.



 Pharoah was a cruel, oppressive leader who HATED the people of God.



The people were trapped under his oppressive power as he laid burdens on their backs too heavy for them to carry. In Ex 6, The Lord tells Moses that He was going to bring them out from under the heavy burdens and the bondage. When Moses tells the people, it says they did not listen to him because of their broken spirits. It was really bad.
"they did not heed Moses, because of anguish of spirit and cruel bondage."

Anguish of spirit and cruel bondage. :(
Maybe that is where you are today. Maybe your spirit is broken or full of anguish. Maybe the enemy has had you under cruel bondage and oppression for so long you can’t even BELIEVE there is a way out.
Well, be encouraged because salvation was not dependent on them and it’s not dependent on you either! God’s plan of salvation was already unfolding whether they believed it or not.

If we are faithless,
He remains 
faithful;

He cannot deny Himself.


What were the first words God spoke?
Let there be LIGHT.
He spoke light into the world and He will continue to speak light into our worlds.
Jesus said HE is the light of the world.
When we accept Him as our Savior and He lives IN US, WE BECOME THE LIGHT OF THE WORLD. 
Because His light shines THROUGH us.
Like I said before, He has chosen His Word to be our source of light.
When you read the Bible, it is like charging your light.
PLUG IN!
This Book is the only TANGIBLE thing we have to hold on to in the supernatural battle we are in. It is a lamp unto our feet.



“The unfolding of your words gives light” Ps 119:130



One of the plagues that God used was darkness. Let’s look at it in Ex 10
“Then the Lord said to Moses, "Stretch out your hand toward the sky so that darkness spreads over Egypt—darkness that can be felt. So Moses stretched out his hand toward the sky, and total darkness covered all Egypt for three days. No one could see anyone else or move about for three days. Yet all the Israelites had LIGHT in the places where they lived.”

I wanted to turn out the lights and give you a visual of light pouring out when I opened my Bible. I was going to use a flashlight. But there is no way to make it dark enough in here. This darkness was darkness that could be FELT. I don’t know if you have ever been on a cave tour where they turn out the lights for like 10 seconds and you have a heart attack. It was that kind of darkness. They couldn’t see ANY light or each other for 3 days.
They couldn’t even move it was so dark.
But it wasn’t dark in Goshen where the Israelites lived!
You have to wonder what this looked like?
You know how I talked about putting your Christmas lights up on your house for Halloween? This was even better. The houses of the believers had a supernatural LIGHT in them EVEN IN THE MIDST OF DARKNESS.

So I started jumping up and down when I realized that not only did the people of God have LIGHT in their homes in the midst of DEEP darkness. But, y’all get this…this word “light” is talking about the light of their faces too! Their countenances had light!
They were HAPPY!
They had light in their faces! They had JOY!
They weren’t sitting inside their homes crying and complaining, they were HAPPY!
Honestly, this really convicted me. Because I have gone through deep darkness during the last 2 years. My dad died, my mom got diagnosed with cancer, 3 of my grandparents who I ADORED died… it has been darkness that has been felt. My countenance has shown it too. I have wrinkles from sadness. I haven’t had much JOY.
When I realized that the people of God were full of JOY, my countenance changed.
I think this whole teaching was for me!
I thought, wait… I don’t have to keep walking around in sadness. Light and JOY is available to us in Christ!
Ask Him to make His face shine on you so that your face can shine!
“The Lord bless you and keep you;
 The Lord make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
 The Lord lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace.” ’
Numbers 6
That makes me want to dance!
Our homes should be full of light and JOY. They should look different than the world’s! We have been rescued from the dominion of darkness! Now and forever!!!!
So, mommas, let’s make sure our homes are FULL of light!
And also make sure you aren’t letting “the Egyptian darkness” in. Be careful of what you allow in your homes through TV and computer and anything else that belongs to the Kingdom of Darkness. The Word says our EYES are the lamp of the body. If they are good, we are filled with light. If they are bad, we are filled with DEEP DARKNESS.
Fill your homes with the LIGHT of God’s Word!
With praise music and dancing and worship!
We have MUCH to celebrate! We don’t have to live in depression and despair. Ask God to LIGHT up  your home and your countenance! Focus on light, not darkness.
There is a time to grieve. I’ve been grieving for years over darkness and death.
But the JOY OF THE LORD is our strength. Remember, it says
“I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”
Grieve and be sad over the enemy’s work here but don’t STAY there. 
That isn’t where you belong.


This isn’t the only time during the plagues the Israelites were supernaturally protected.  Look at God’s hand of protection on His people.
"Tell Aaron, 'Stretch out your staff and strike the dust of the ground,' and throughout the land of Egypt the dust will become gnats." 
Ex 8:16
“But the Lord will make a distinction between the livestock of Israel and that of Egypt, so that no animal belonging to the Israelites will die.” 
Ex 9:4
“The only place it did not hail was the land of Goshen, where the Israelites were.”
Ex 9:26
“No one could see anyone else or move about for three days. Yet all the Israelites had light in the places where they lived.” 
Ex 10:23
“But among the Israelites not a dog will bark at any person or animal.' Then you will know that the Lord makes a distinction between Egypt and Israel.” 
Ex 11:7
Even in captivity, even in the MIDST of evil, God protected His people.
Is darkness coming? Yes, I believe it is. 
BUT... God protects His people.
We may get persecuted and be surrounded by darkness but it cannot overcome us.
 "I will build My church, and the gates of Hades shall not prevail against it."
Matt 16:18


Why did God tell Pharoah to let the people go? 
What was the goal?
What does the Lord keep telling Moses to say?
Let my people go so that ?????
They can play select soccer?
They can go to Starbucks?
They can watch Dancing with the Stars in their recliners?

SO THAT THEY CAN WORSHIP ME.
Isis and terror attacks aren’t trying to wipe out America. They are trying to take away our freedom to worship the LIVING GOD.
The enemy’s goal is to oppress people SO THAT THEY CANNOT WORSHIP GOD.
Worship is a privilege. It is a freedom.
It cost God the life of His Son.
We take it for granted.

This election, freedom to worship hangs in the balance.
Our pastor said, “Vote for the candidate who will provide the safest atmosphere for the Church”.
You don't have to love the candidate but be shrewd.
Cast your vote.



Darkness is coming girls. You need to be prepared. We need to mourn over the freedoms that the enemy is robbing of us and our children. The loss is REAL. But we will always have light in our homes. No matter how deep the darkness is.






 I have given you a handout full of verses about light.
You get this bright yellow piece of paper out when you are in darkness. Read it out loud and remind yourself of the truth. The enemy can throw us into a downward spiral when we let go of the TRUTH of   God’s Word.

Light
“Then the Lord said to Moses, "Stretch out your hand toward the sky so that darkness spreads over Egypt—darkness that can be felt. So Moses stretched out his hand toward the sky, and total darkness covered all Egypt for three days. No one could see anyone else or move about for three days. Yet all the Israelites had LIGHT in the places where they lived.” Ex 10
“And God said, “Let there be light,”  Gen 1:3
“In Him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.” John 1:4
“When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows Me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12
 “You are the light of the world.” Matthew 5:14
“God saw that the light was good, and He separated the light from the darkness.” Gen 1
“By day the Lord went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night.” Ex 13:21
“Let the light of your face shine on us.” Ps 4:6
You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light.” Ps 18:28
“The Lord is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear?  Ps 27:1
“in Your light we see light. Ps 36:9
“It was not by their sword that they won the land, nor did their arm bring them victory; it was your right hand, your arm, and the light of your face, for you loved them.”  Ps 44:3
“Blessed are those who have learned to acclaim you, who walk in the light of your presence, Lord.” Ps 89:15
"Light shines on the righteous and JOY on the upright in heart." Ps 97:11
“Even in darkness light dawns for the upright, for those who are gracious and compassionate and righteous.
Ps 112:4
“The unfolding of your words gives light” Ps 119:130
“For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light” Prov 6:23
“for darkness is as light to you”. Ps 139:12
“The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day.” Prov 4:18
“He reveals the deep things of darkness and brings utter darkness into the light.” Job 12:22
I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them.” Is 42:16

“Do not gloat over me, my enemy! Though I have fallen, I will rise. Though I sit in darkness, the Lord will be my light.” Mic 7:8


“ what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Cor 6:14

“For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light” Eph 5:8

(“Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.” 2 Cor 6:17)


“You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness.” 1 Thess 5:5

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9
“God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.” 1 John 1:5
 “the darkness is passing and the true light is already shining.” 1 John 2:8
“There will be no more night. They will not need the light of a lamp or the light of the sun, for the Lord God will give them light. And they will reign for ever and ever.” Rev 22:5



Be Blessed~
Steph