Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Porn and Potiphar's Wife

Remember me? The girl who used to blog all the time? Well, that girl is getting her tail kicked by the JOB she has of raising 7 children. There is no discretionary time any more. 
But, I am so burdened by what I am seeing in our generation that I HAVE to stop and write.
Porn, adultery, divorce, addiction, etc... is taking marriages/people down like flies. Porn is an epidemic. Worse than the flu. It is making so many sick. 
We are living in a very frightening time. Especially if God has entrusted you with SIX sons!
Surely homeschooling can stop the evil, right? Putting restrictions on all of our electronics will keep us safe, right? WRONG.
That's outward ammo.
This is a HEART issue. 

"O my son, give me your HEART.
May your eyes take delight in following my ways.
A prostitute is a dangerous trap;
a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well.
She hides and waits like a robber,
eager to make more men unfaithful."
Prov 23:26-28

We can no longer think we can shield our kids from every evil. I wish we could. I wish we could go back in time where marriage was honored, God's Word prevailed, and pornography was not readily accessible in the hand of every child.
But, God, placed us here... NOW... on purpose.
NOT so that our kids will get swept away by the tsunami of evil.

We have to prepare them and pray for them.
Our sons were created for battle. Well, that's a good thing because they have been born into a raging war. Homeschool kids are moving to the top of the list of addicts. That is scary to me. Kids who sit in their rooms all day... detached from reality. No deep relationship with God or their parents. All in the name of protection. I think the enemy is preying on boredom. Just like he did with David.
Why wasn't David fighting battles like he should of been? Instead, he was having a "midday rest"???
 "In the spring of the year, when kings normally go out to war, David sent Joab and the Israelite army to fight the Ammonites. They destroyed the Ammonite army and laid siege to the city of Rabbah. However, David stayed behind in Jerusalem.
 Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath."

Our sons need to be engaged in battle and BUSY. Not taking mid-day rests.

It boils down to the heart and wisdom. What the Bible would call A HEART OF WISDOM.

As I watch this epidemic hitting homes of all kinds, I wonder if there is a vaccination. Can I give my sons enough of it to where they will be immune when exposed to the real deal?
I believe I can.
Tim and I have relied on the Spirit to guide us in what to say to them and when. We didn't want to use a book or a formula. We want God to show us when they are ready instead of when the world tells you to talk to them. 
Reading straight through the Bible has been a wonderful catalyst for conversation.

A couple of things I have felt very strongly God wants them to know:

1. All sex isn't the same. There are different words used in the Old Testament in regards to sex. 

God's WAY--- "Yada"- can be translated--- 
to be deeply known, respected, satisfied, cared for, know well, chosen, clearly understand, investigate, skillful, experience, found, 
learn, make myself known, notice

The enemy's way--"Anah"- 
to afflict, oppress, humble, be afflicted, be bowed down, 
depressed, humiliated, weakened

(There is another word used in regards to sexual relations that means "to exchange bodily fluids". GROSS)

Sex God's way is a lifelong pass back to the garden of Eden. If you fight for your purity, then that angel (with the flaming sword) will get out of the way and let you back into Eden.  :) 
If you do it the enemy's way, you will find yourself stuck in an earthly HELL. 

God may extend His mercy and rescue but WHY GO THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE? And, I am seeing young boys going past the point of no return. Their brains have been DAMAGED.

From a young age, I have taught my boys that their eyes are the lamps of their whole bodies.
If their eyes are filled with light, so is their entire body.
If their eyes are filled with darkness, SO IS THEIR ENTIRE BODY.

“Your eye is a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is good, your whole body is filled with light.  But when your eye is bad, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!"
Matthew 6

I think every parent needs to watch this video to see the TRUTH of this passage. 
The darkness of porn is DEEP. 

"The word pornography is composed of two Greek words. The first is porne, meaning “harlot,” which is akin to the word pernanai, meaning “to sell.” The second word is graphein, meaning “to write.” In other words, pornography is literally “the writing of harlots.”

There is a God-given curiosity in boys. 
They have to LEARN to control their bodies in a way that is holy and honorable.
It isn't natural. 
If they have to learn how to control their bodies, who is going to teach them?
We have to.
They have to know the difference between holy and unholy.

I told my boys that their wives will answer all of their questions one day.
It IS meant to be mysteriously sacred.
But they have to wait. And fight for her until then.

Obviously, Tim's example and leadership in this area is HUGE. Bigger than mine. We have to pray for our husbands. The enemy is taking down leaders. 
Just read about aNOTHER mega-Church pastor's wife divorcing him for infidelity.
If there is a crack in the wall, the devil will go in for the kill. 
Tim and I know the enemy wants to destroy us. The quickest way would be to destroy Tim. 
Not only are our men and sons dealing with Porn. They are also dealing with "Potiphar's wife".  Women also lust with their eyes. It's not just a guy thing.

"Joseph was a very handsome and well-built young man,  and Potiphar’s wife soon began to look at him lustfully. “Come and sleep with me,” she demanded.
 But Joseph refused. “Look,” he told her, “my master trusts me with everything in his entire household.  No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.”
 She kept putting pressure on Joseph day after day, but he refused to sleep with her, and he kept out of her way as much as possible.  
One day, however, no one else was around when he went in to do his work.  She came and grabbed him by his cloak, demanding, “Come on, sleep with me!” Joseph tore himself away, but he left his cloak in her hand as he ran from the house.
 When she saw that she was holding his cloak and he had fled,  she called out to her servants. Soon all the men came running. “Look!” she said. “My husband has brought this Hebrew slave here to make fools of us! He came into my room to rape me, but I screamed.  When he heard me scream, he ran outside and got away, but he left his cloak behind with me.”
She kept the cloak with her until her husband came home.  Then she told him her story. “That Hebrew slave you’ve brought into our house tried to come in and fool around with me,” she said.  “But when I screamed, he ran outside, leaving his cloak with me!”
Gen 39

Oh my goodness this makes me angry. 
May we women NEVER have a heart like this.
It started as lust in the way she began to look at him.
She could have stopped it there. At that point it was still in the spiritual realm. It had not yet manifested into the physical realm.
Are you doing that? Are you looking at another man lustfully? CONFESS IT.

This makes me sad for Joseph because he has to WORK with her. Work environments can be so dangerous. 
This verse in Proverbs makes me SO MAD:
"a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well.
She hides and waits like a robber,
eager to make more men unfaithful."
Prov 23


He tries to avoid her as much as possible. She won't let up. 
She hides and waits like a robber until an opportune time.
He had already lost one coat to the deceit of his brothers. Now, he loses another one to a whore.
BUT, somehow he clung tight to his character. 
Character can cost you. It can even cost you your reputation. But it doesn't matter. You do whatever it takes to stay pure before God. 

Potiphar's wife was obviously MARRIED. 
She thought the grass was greener.
Maybe if she had been watering HER OWN GRASS, it wouldn't have been.
Girls, water YOUR MARRIAGES instead of fantasizing about someone else's husband. If your marriage isn't all you had dreamed it would be, talk to a trusted person. Get help before you start lusting after something that isn't yours.
Take every thought captive and bring it into the light.

I am thankful for all of these years I have been able to protect my sons by having them home. But, soon, they are going to be somewhere someday WITHOUT THEIR MOMMA. 
Potiphar's wife may show up at their work or on their ipad screen.
Oh, may their "inner man" be strong enough to run!

"that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man
Eph 3:16

I am sure Joseph thought no one was watching. He had no idea that his actions that day would be "seen" through Scripture for the rest of human history. We have no idea the impact our godly decisions will make. 
Our sins truly do find us out.
The enemy loves nothing more than to make you fall and then plaster your sin on a billboard to humiliate you.
Truth wins. 
We all know the real story between Joseph and Potiphar's wife.
Maybe no one did at the time but God has a way of exposing truth in time.

Potiphar's wife was fueled by lust. If lust can't have what it wants, it will try to destroy it. She tried to destroy him after he rejected her.

Our husbands and our sons hearts must fear God.
They must FEAR God and broken fellowship with Him more than they want to gratify the cravings of the sinful flesh.
1 John tells us that our greatest battles will be against our flesh, the devil, and the world. 

We have to pray for our husbands and our sons.
Pray that they would have strength for the battle.
Be careful of cracks. The enemy only needs an inch.
Trust CHRIST in your husband.
Your husband is human. 
The good news is that if he is walking yielded to Christ, he is SUPERhuman.
I have so much more I want to share about talking to your sons about sex but I have to go fix lunch.
Just remember, this is a HEART issue.
Get to their hearts with the Word.



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